Rhythm timer
We built this free timer so you don’t have to keep the sequence in your head. It walks you through the 10-20-5-1-finish-cooloff method phase by phase, shows what to do at each step, and gives a short sound cue when it’s time to switch. Tap “Start” — that opens the full-screen view.
10-20-5-1-finish-cooloff
Step 1 of 1710 — Stimulate the donor
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Give the donor around 10 minutes of unhurried oral or manual stimulation to build arousal — stopping short of ejaculation. Oral is preferred; a gentle massage of the groin and testicular area is often included.
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Note: this routine is based on self-reported data, not a clinical trial. Use only what feels right for the two of you — every step is optional and can be skipped.